Pursuit of Proverbs 31: Priorities

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Pursuit of Proverbs 31

I finished Ephesians last week and I’m now studying Proverbs 31 using Amy Bayliss’ new ebook Pursuit of Proverbs 31.  I had the privilege of reviewing Pursuit of Proverbs 31 before it released.  It’s wonderful and packed full of information, thoughts, and guidance for studying Proverbs 31.

Want your own copy?  Pursuit of Proverbs 31 is available in PDF, Kindle and Nook.

I read and studied using the first three chapters of Pursuit of Proverbs 31 this week. There’s way too much to share everything with you so I’m only going to share one thing that stood out to me: priorities.

Priority means: status established in order of importance or urgency.

How do you order your life according to priorities?  Most of us have seen the order of God, spouse, children, home, etc, etc.  But is this the best order?  Not really.  It is actually better to look at our lives and priorities as a wheel.  God is at the center and all other things come off of that central focus.  Keeping God at the center of our lives then shows us what other things have importance and/or urgency on a particular day and time.

Here’s what priorities look like in our home:

  1. God is at the center of everything we do.
  2. Family
  3. Paying off debt.

We make decisions by asking three questions:

  1. Does this fit into spending time with and building up our family?
  2. Does this fit into paying off debt?
  3. Is God asking us to do this even though it doesn’t fit into our first two priorities?

Paying off debt might seem like an odd priority, but this is a big deal for us.  By focusing on reducing expenses and paying off debt, we’re freeing ourselves up for bigger opportunities in the future. We’ve gotten “gazelle intense” to use a Dave Ramsey-ism and we’ve already seen God honor the steps we’ve made towards this goal.  I recently shared how we were able to pay off the rest of Josh’s student loan in 3.5 months.

Let’s look at an example of following the wrong priorities:  I’ve seen a lot of negative and potentially condescending blog posts recently about how some bloggers feel that moms are spending too much time online and blogging to the detriment of their families.  There are plenty of activities that we can each wrongly engage in that will keep us from our God-given priorities.  While blogging and other online endeavors could be this time-zapping activity for some, the focus needs to be on determining what your priorities should be and framing everything within those priorities.

I put a great deal of time into my blog because it fits into our priorities. My blog is first for me and my family. It’s a record for my family of our lives and our homeschooling. Second, it’s a place for me personally to write and process things that are going on in our lives in a way that can encourage others.  Third it’s the platform I use to network with people. This is essential to our paying off debt priority because my contribution and income comes out of this networking, whether through direct income from the blog or through virtual assistance clients whom I’ve met because of my blog.

My point?  Priorities look different for each mom and each family. Find the rhythm that works for your family.  Once God is at the center, listen and obey. Follow where he leads. Are there perhaps some main priorities that God is asking you to use to frame all other decisions?  Are you missing out on opportunities because you’re following another family’s priorities instead of the priorities God has for you?

Have you read Pursuit of Proverbs 31? Have any thoughts on the topic of priorities? Share your thoughts in the comments.


  1. GREAT post, Amanda!  I agree, each family is different.  If you are lining your time and priorities with God and your family…then, that is so great!  It hurts my heart when I read others say what we should or should not be doing with our time.  We should be encouraging one another, building one another, lifting one another and remembering, God made each one of us different, each family different and if we are focused on Glorifying HIM….then that’s all that matters.  It’s not for me to say what someone else should be doing.  Personal accountability is one thing, but I agree….with what you are saying here.  I support you 100% and am so proud of all that you have accomplished and will accomplish in the future!  

    • Thanks Rebecca. I just want to be faithful to what God has called me to do. Truth is Truth (no post-modern relativism here), but application is personal and as unique as God created us each to be. I pray that moms and families will find their unique priorities and framework from God.

  2. Amanda, this is a wonderful post and very well written.  God has depending on the season of my life directed me toward different priorities and I have felt lately that while I have wanted to do one thing or another He has kept me on task with the current priorities.  God has a plan for each of our lives and sometimes the priorities he has given for us to accomplish are different even for individuals within the family unit.  While you blog it doesn’t mean that your husbands priority is to also be used by God in this manner. You in my opinion stated it very well by saying that God is at the center and once we firmly place Him at the center, everything else falls into place.  If you have felt led by God to glorify Him with your blog, then Amanda in my opinion you have hit the mark.  God is using you! Please continue to keep your heart open to his will for your life and the life of your family.

  3. With God at the center – and by following His will for our lives and in our own homes – who has time to worry about whether someone else is doing the same? I just want to encourage others to put God in the center – not what that translates to in their life – that’s God’s job :) for me – blogging fits – my husband is very supportive and God is leading me through it – He checks me when and if my priorities (from every area of life) get “off” – let’s face it – He is first – front and center and if NOT – then we need to adjust. You said it all so beautifully – I love it. God has blessed my family and my heart through blogging – He has improved our homelife through the richness of the relationships I’ve made, the opportunities it’s afforded, and He has used it to touch others through me (humbly- it’s Him not Me) Where I mess up – is when I allow ANYTHING to replace my quiet time with Him – (I do that sometimes & He straightens me right out) often – He’ll use an article in a blog to remind me of the things I need to do to be closer to Him. One more thing- I’m a better parent because of the way God has used blogging in my life – if I’m studying and writing about the topic of parenting – I had better be walking the walk – He is growing me this way & I’m so happy about it (my children are too) 😉 Well done Amanda- I need to get this book . . . . . love it! 

  4. I love the word-picture of God at the center of our wheel!  I own this ebook…yet another one that I MUST finish reading!  Thanks for this, Amanda.  =)

    • It is a good one. You need to go finish it. So many great insights from this book so far.

      •  *sigh* I need to learn to absorb through osmosis.  =)  I just picked up Shepherding a Child’s Heart to read (it’s on my lap) and next to me is a Beth Moore Bible Study that I’ve been putting off.  Oh, and I want to read my copy of Raising Real Men.  And blog about all 3.  Little bites at a time, right?  =) 
        I was actually wondering whether to blog through Beth Moore’s or RRM, until your SACH caught my eye…once again.  I think I’ll start there first and try to stick with it.   Thanks!

  5. Gail Brubaker says:

    I am new here, but I like this blog. Our lives must be centered on what God wants us to accomplish for him. Right now I am also trying to keep my priorities straight.

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