Graduation brings so many mixed feelings for parents and graduates alike. Parents are excited to see their children achieve and accomplish – and excited to see what the next stages of life will bring. Yet, they also feel sad, knowing that their child is going to be leaving home, possibly even moving to a different state. The idea of marriage and children also brings bittersweet moments. No longer is your little one actually little.
We have trained them, and although they will always need us, they are going to be flying – and we will just be the wind in their wings.
Just as parents feel bittersweet about graduation, the graduate can also feel some different emotions about the upcoming big day. They are probably excited about the freedom that will come, going to college, or beginning their career. However, they might be scared too. No longer will they have the safety net of parents each day, and they will have to start making some big decisions for themselves.
How can we encourage our graduate in the days ahead? Here are three simple steps:
- Let them talk – Often, as parents, we are quick to want to fill our children full of our knowledge and wisdom as they are about to do something new. Sometimes, we forget to listen to what they are saying. Sometimes, we don't even give them a chance to talk. Your child probably has some fears, and if you give them an opportunity, and time to talk, they will probably share those with you. Don't feel the need to fix it. Your stage in life is changing, and so you need to remember to let them have some say.
- Let them make mistakes – Remember, this season of life is for learning, and some of the best lessons are made from our mistakes. This is hard, because we often feel like we are judged when our children make mistakes. You might be. Parents can be critical. Yet, our kids need to learn some hard lessons. They might need to overdraw their bank account. Yes, they might need you to help them “fix” it – but don't monitor the account so close you fix the mistake before it happens. They need to learn. Obviously, if you see major danger step in, but don't be fearful of small mistakes.
- Pray with them – Take this time to pray with your child. Often. From making decisions about colleges and jobs, to where they are going to live, to who their roommate might be – make everything an opportunity to pray with your child.
The best thing we can remember as Graduation approaches is that God goes with you wherever you go.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9
The best thing about this stage of life is that they are dreaming new dreams and making new goals. It is with that in mind that maybe you can print out this printable and use it at a graduation party, as a graduation gift, or at a homeschool graduation.
Graduation can be bittersweet for everyone involved. Remember that feelings are going to be running high, and try to walk in patience. Take things lightly. Live in the moments and praise God for the amazing things that He has done in your life and in the life of your blessing!
Worshiping With My Life,
Mandy