Thermometer or Thermostat?
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying:
If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.
It’s sad, but true.
You’ve probably also heard sayings about how you can be a thermometer or a thermostat.
Either way, think about the result: Mom’s attitude affects the whole family.
I’ve seen this in my family. If I’m angry, there’s a good chance that my kids are going to have attitudes and be angry. If I’m happy and in a good mood, my kids are more likely to be cheerful.
But, what’s driving my attitude? Am I reacting to what’s going on around me? Or am I changing my attitude in order to change the emotional temperature of my family? I can reflect the temperature of my family like a thermometer or I can adjust the temperature like a thermostat. I have to constantly choose.
Change the Temperature
I admit, sometimes, my boys drive me crazy. They are messy and they are loud, but, what really drives me crazy is my sins and attitudes that I see in them. This is especially true of my oldest: every time he opens his mouth, I hear myself and it’s like nails on a chalkboard.
When we see behaviors in our kids that we don’t like, there’s a good chance there’s sin and attitudes in ourselves that we need to look at before trying to correct the child’s behavior. If my son is yelling at me, I need to look at myself and see if I’ve been yelling. I need to first model the things I want my boys to be and do.
My boys see how I respond to stresses and frustrations. And these are the patterns my boys will start to follow.
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